There is a definitive clash between “what we want and what is,” Bayda argues, and people’s tendency to feel entitled to happiness is a major stumbling block in accepting “what is.” But that acceptance is crucial for true contentment, he writes, and his suggestions to achieve it are as easy-to-grasp as they are enlightening. From his ten steps to contentment,” (“get out of your head” and “practice forgiveness” are particularly enriching) to his three main detours we often take to dodge uncomfortable circumstances—analyzing, blaming, and judging—Bayda offers a wealth of fresh, practical information. He explores several common emotions that can stymie our efforts at self-actualization, covering such heavy hitters as grief, depression, and fear, and though some of his advice may sound unconventional (to live authentically, he writes, we must stop “indulging the stories of depression”), they make sense in the context of his work.

Whether readers are just beginning their journey or are experienced in the pursuit of self-realization, Bayda’s winning combination of thoughtful analysis and down-to-earth practice will hit home. He closes with a summary of “essential reminders” and wisely reminds readers “We are truly living when we can experience the…quiet texture of simply being.”

Takeaway: Sensible guidance and practical tips on achieving self-realization.

Comparable Titles: Alex Lickerman’s The Undefeated Mind, Susan L. Smalley and Diana Winston’s Fully Present.

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