Tom McNamara has a secret. For more than twenty years he has been deeply in love with his sister-in-law, Jan. For more than twenty years, Tom and Jan have kept silent about a passionate three-day love affair they shared during a skiing trip in Europe. While neither of the lovers was married at the time—Jan was engaged in Toronto and Tom believed he would marry Judy, a woman he had been seeing for a few months in Ottawa—Jan and Tom decided to part permanently, returning to their partners in Canada, anticipating they would never see one another again. But destiny can be perfidious. A few days before his wedding Tom encounters his “perfect” lover again, stunned to realize she is actually his fiancee’s sister. Compelled to go ahead with the wedding, Tom discovers his passion for Jan simply will not wane, regardless of his marital status. Condemned to suffer from unrequited love, Tom joins Jan in concealing (even from one another) what happened to them in Austria. Was the love he felt during those three mystical days some kind of unfortunate aberration? If so, as time passes, why won’t it go away? Now, twenty years later—six months after the death of Judy and Jan’s disapproving mother Gladys—Tim, Judy, Greg and Jan are going to spend an October weekend at a rundown lodge near Temagami, a piece of property that has shown up unexpectedly as part of Gladys’s estate. Once they arrive, they intend to assess its worth so that they can sell it. After all, Jan’s husband Greg is a real estate whiz in Toronto and Greg shares Judy’s dismay over the disappointing financial worth of the rest of Gladys’s debt-ridden estate in Rosedale. The weekend in Temagami is tense from the beginning. Judy is furious with her deceased mother over the secrecy and inconvenience surrounding the lodge. She fears Tom is growing to like the place due to his affinity for the wilderness and his increasing restlessness with the Ottawa suburbs where they live. For his part, Tom is preoccupied with uncovering the mysterious reasons his snooty mother-in-law ended up owning a Northern Ontario lodge no one knew about. Worse yet, he still loves Jan desperately and wants to confess his feelings, so that at last he can truly find himself and get on with a life he feels should be more authentic. Written with a hyperbolic sense of humour, the chapters in I And You, And Me And Her alternate between the present day at the lodge in Temagami and the incidents before and after the Alps, when Tom met his perfect lover and then, apparently acquiescing to her wishes, married her sister instead. The novel examines the dynamics of romantic love, both conventional and unconventional, skewering along the way the myths society constructs around its relationships. In the end, though, I And You, And Me And Her is about finding the courage and self-awareness to be the person you really are.