Invisible Masks Traumatic experiences, rejection, and abuse can cause us to function as opposites of our true selves. We often say I’m fine when we’re emotionally, physically, and spiritually on edge. We don’t want the people around us to know we are hurting or struggling because exposing our weakness makes us vulnerable. In Who I’ve Become, Sonya shares her own painful experience as a victim of childhood sexual abuse—from being pursued by one family member’s perversions to being used by several others and lying to keep up the facade that everything was okay when she was hurting inside.