BookLife Talks with Tamara Neal
A sponsored Q&A with the author of 'His & Hers: Relationships Do’s & Don’ts'

Neal, a 911 operator turned relationship expert and an Indie Excellence Award finalist, returns with more advice about how to deal with violent or failing relationships.

How did you come to write His & Hers: Relationships Do’s & Don’ts?
 
After writing The World’s Top Ten Worst Men for Women Guide and Venomous Relationships, a 2015 National Indie Excellence Award finalist, I received an overwhelming response from male readers requesting a female version of the guide. I decided to write a book that would address both male and female relationship dos and don’ts.

Who is your ideal reader and why?

My most important reader is someone who is currently in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship and could use valuable information about how to safely get out, but my readers are many: any woman or man who desires to learn how to hack the 10 most common unhealthy relationships; anyone who is beginning to feel like a failed relationship magnet because of repeated relationship failure; people suffering from TTTD, or Tell-Tale Traits Deficits; anyone who could use some help identifying self-sabotaging relationship behaviors; the person who is ready to let go of past relationship failures; and others.
 
How do you imagine readers at this moment will connect to His & Hers: Relationships Do’s & Don’ts?

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, more than 20,000 phone calls are placed to domestic violence hotlines across the country every day. As a former 911 operator, I quickly came to know that many people are suffering, no matter their age, ethnic group, or financial status. His & Hers reads like a chat with a good friend who has been there, done that, and then wrote the book.

Tell us about your personal and professional background. What kind of expertise do you bring to the subject of relationships?
 

I am a multiple time National Indie Excellence Award finalist and emotional abuse survivor turned certified relationship coach. I received a national diploma in emergency medical dispatch during my time as a 911 operator. Back then, I was often the only lifeline people had as they suffered the most horrific violence and abuse until the police arrived. This life-changing position afforded me the authority to write books that help people who may still suffer in silence avoid becoming a statistic. My relationship advice has appeared on CNN and WebMD and in Mind Body Green and Chispa magazines. I have appeared on national and cable television networks.

What is the one thing you most want to tell readers, booksellers, publishers, or agents about you or your book?

Through my published works, I strive to leave the world a better place. My books are available in bookstores and libraries around the world. I am available to talk with agents and publishers and for media interviews. You can learn more about me and my mission to help people change their lives for the better at tamaraneal.com.