This workbook-guide for late-identified neurodivergent (ND) adults is written by a ND psychologist with lived experience. Each chapter explores a main component of building healthy relationships with both the self and others. This book is jam-packed with engaging, ND-firendly infographics explaining key concepts (printed in premium, full colour!) to help the reader better understand neurodivergence and their own late identification. Drawing on a range of evidence-based psychotherapy models and written in a relaxed, easy-to-read tone, this neuro-affirming book is a must-have for any neurodivergent person.
Loo acknowledges that neurodivergence is a relatively new revelation and should be viewed through a flexible lens, with an understanding that appropriate language and methodology may change over time. “Ongoing reflection from society is necessary to ensure that we’re always trying to better understand, represent and support the neurodivergent community” she urges, and readers will find a wealth of affirmative ideas and approaches here that attest to those beliefs. Topics of note include masking neurodivergence to be viewed as “socially acceptable” (and the harm that goes along with that), healthy versus unhealthy power dynamics in relationships, and the need to avoid the common neurodivergent pitfall of people-pleasing.
Readers will find the colorful graphics, diagrams, and journaling opportunities particularly useful; Loo utilizes mind maps to illustrate complex topics, and visuals such as a “self-care menu” and a layout of creative stims ideas—self-care activities to help regulate emotions—are bold, bright, and incredibly helpful. The message is clear: “Being pressured to live like a [neurotypical]… is like forced cultural assimilation in the ethnocultural context.” While she writes that the material is meant for those who identified their neurodivergence in adulthood rather than childhood, this handbook will also prove a valuable tool for any neurodivergent or neurotypical reader.
Takeaway: Enlightening, supportive resource for late-identified neurodivergent adults.
Comparable Titles: Steve Silberman’s NeuroTribes, Zosia Zaks’s Life and Love.
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