"Saved, Sanctified..and Still Need a Drink" captures the essence of the personal struggle that many people go through when trying to navigate their lives amidst the background of religious upbringing. The author uses her story of self discovery to tackle issues such as condemnation, guilt, and fear brought on by her holiness church culture's view of sin and salvation, and how she put her spiritual life into context by looking at her beliefs and where they originated. This book is insightful, humorous, and relatable for all readers seeking to resolve their own issues, and discover personal peace and healing.
Saved, Sanctified… and Still Need a Drink: A Self Discovery Journey, is the book that many have been waiting to read all their lives. It speaks to anyone who grew up in a fundamentalist or highly structured setting with unachievable or irrational goals of judgement and perfection, with no forum to question or disagree. This book is the quiet voice of reason in the back of your head. It is well constructed, well written, unimposing and without condemnation, encouraging the reader to go finally forward in joy, forgiveness and freedom.
Saved, Sanctified… and Still Need a Drink breaks the isolation and silence, and publically poses simple questions that are typically deemed taboo in cultural settings that are based on control and unquestioning obedience. Barbara Freeman is applauded for daring to call out the unfortunate nakedness of the proverbial emperor. Yet, she balances her questions with a clear appreciation of the positive attributes of a culture that teaches strength, truth and the importance of uplifting all around us, clearly understanding that most relationships are not black and white, but consist of a wide array of emotions. Though she criticizes many of the strategies used by the church, her message is the same: Be Free.
If you had to go to therapy with a drink in your hand, this is what it would sound like. While she uses the “drink” as a metaphor for facing one’s true self and deep beliefs, the conversation that ensues offers a series of questions that only the reader can answer. While no therapy session can change the past, Saved, Sanctified… and Still Need a Drink, creates a starting place, inviting the reader to acknowledge, accept and embrace her own spiritual truth, and be empowered in a way that the church never imagined.
Amy Freeman, Ph.D.
Author, Stress Less: 10 Balancing Insights on Work and Life