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  • 04/2021
  • 9780578817019
  • 138 pages
  • $12.95
Larry Godwin
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Surviving Our Parents' Mistakes: Healing the Scars from Childhood Mistreatment, Second Edition
Larry Godwin, author

Adult; Self-Help, Sex & Relationships, Psychology, Philosophy, Fashion; (Market)

This book concerns recovery from emotional child abuse. In it, I narrate a number of childhood memories from journals I’ve kept for decades, in which I’ve written my thoughts and feelings. Here I explain how early experiences negatively influenced my adult self-worth and caused difficulty dealing with issues such as anger, depression, obligation, and control. Then I go on to tell what I’ve done, with the support of my wife, the inadvertent assistance of our child, and the help of several excellent therapists, to heal old injuries and forgive my parents. My writing reflects the progression of my thinking as I stopped blaming my parents for mistreating me and started taking responsibility for my predicament and recovery. I mention some of the stumbling blocks and setbacks I encountered along the way, and finish each chapter with insights that have soothed and enriched my present life, bringing peace and vitality. In these pages, I relate what has worked for me and suggest strategies that will help other abuse victims.
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Reviewed By Jon Michael Miller for Readers' Favorite (with 5 star rating)
Surviving Our Parents' Mistakes: Healing the Scars from Childhood Mistreatment--Second Edition by Larry Godwin, Ph.D., is a compilation of the author's lifelong problems from having grown up with a single abusive mother, who, her husband having abandoned her, placed all her attention, useful and not, on her son. Dr. Godwin was not physically free to find his own way until he left home for college. From then on, he struggled to understand and to manage the personality defects he came to understand were a direct result of his chaotic upbringing. He writes his book using footnoted professional references from the psychological community. Though the exact incidences of difficult behaviors are not chronological, the reader can read between the lines to construct the confused life path of the author and, more importantly, the coping methods he eventually learned.

I was particularly intrigued by the format Larry Godwin uses. Instead of a chronology of life experiences, he divides his story into topics: Depression, Insecurity, Self-Concept and Self-Esteem, Guilt, Responsibility and Obligation, Engulfment and Confinement, Control and Assertiveness, Anger, and Stress. Within this framework, he presents journal-like vignettes, demonstrating first the emotional reaction to a specific event (a student criticizes him) with the rational antidote (his right to defend himself). Especially poignant is his long evolution from blaming his mother to forgiving her. He anchors his views with references to a variety of experts, clearly footnoted. What stands out is his brutal self-criticism and honesty, almost as if we're eavesdropping on actual psychoanalytical office sessions. By using himself as an example, Dr. Godwin presents answers for anyone whose damaging childhood has created often debilitating struggles in adult life. Having traveled a bit on that route myself, I am grateful for this enlightening book.

Formats
Paperback Book Details
  • 04/2021
  • 9780578817019
  • 138 pages
  • $12.95

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