The Connection Playbook advises not only on how to become the person one wants to be, seeing those one cares about through the “lens of love” and communicating with intent and clarity, but also how to avoid perpetuating unhealthy cycles. “If we’re not conscious of what lies behind our triggers, we can turn into the very people we try our best not to be,” Chaleff notes. To that end, Chaleff offers original strategies, techniques, and clarifying examples exploring how to face challenging moments in relationships—like flashpoint interactions that could lead to conflict—with grace and empathy. Relevant and practical exercises are found at the end of each chapter, reinforcing concepts like viewing mistakes as “moments to create connection.”
This warm, illuminating guide is a toolbox for building relationships, enhancing professional connections, and simply understanding more of the world around you–and understanding your own triggers, defensiveness, and responsibilities in relationships as well. Chaleff persuasively argues that “if we can’t see how we create barriers between ourselves and others, we have no way of dealing with those barriers.” With clear eyes and an open heart, The Connection Playbook deftly demonstrates how to create healthy attachment styles at a time when people feel increasingly distant.
Takeaway: Original, informative guide to building relationships on trust and respect.
Comparable Titles: David Bradford and Carole Robin’s Connect, Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas’s When Sorry Isn’t Enough.
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"Chaleff presents a thoughtful guide on how to forge new connections and improve existing ones... In this book, the author presents readers with a "playbook" for how to navigate connections in their everyday lives. He uses personal anecdotes and concrete and familiar real-world examples to explain his ideas, resulting in a straightforward read."
"In a world that's slowly emerging from the Covid-19 pandemic, during which many people struggled with building and maintaining relationships, this book is a must-read."
"The Connection Playbook is more than just a book—it's an invaluable guide for those yearning for richer, more meaningful relationships. It serves as a beacon for introspective individuals, psychology enthusiasts, and professionals alike. I commend Chaleff on this enlightening work and eagerly await his future contributions to the field."
"Though exceedingly meaningful as a relationship manual, Chaleff's work is far greater. In short, it is a commentary on understanding human behavior at its root level, a sort of cleansing and rewiring of the responses to the inevitable thoughts that inundate the vessel that is the mind."