“Life AFTER the Down Low” chronicles the post trauma of a wife deceived by her husband who lived a secret double life as a homosexual. Not only did the youth pastor breach the sanctity of their marriage with countless men but he was also accused of violating the lives of innocent boys he would steward. The grief stages were evident, stress and depression became visible and healing was hard fought. Through her faith in God and determination not to die, Ingrid survived. She uses her voice in “Life AFTER the Down Low” to encourage women and men not to hide this silent killer.