"Have you ever wanted to change someone? Did you change them and did it work? Have you become infatuated with someone else’s issues and problems, wondering if they just changed or fixed the issue then everything would be okay?Have you drained and wasted energy trying to change someone and gotten nowhere? News flash, you cannot change or control anyone. You can only control how you respond to that person in your life.
Why did Ariella stay? She thought that if they went to church seeking help and prayer it would change her situation. Ariella was waiting for a miraculous answer to her prayers. Ariella was too overwhelmed with emotions and worry to find solutions to her problems. She questioned herself. She wanted to make sure that before she left Kaleb, that she would do everything she could to save her marriage. She decided that she would learn everything that she can do to make things better.
She would give it her all, and if it came down to her leaving Kaleb, she would know she did everything to save her marriage and family. Ariella started to pray for answers that “God” would change him or help her. Ariella noticed Kaleb drifting away, not wanting to attend church, leaving the service early or not wanting to go, but she continued to go with the kids. She made excuses like: I don’t have enough money to leave. I can change Kaleb. If he is gone who will take out the trash? I don’t like being alone. He’s the father to my children.
It takes two people to work at a marriage or a relationship. Are you the only one trying to find solutions for problems? Kaleb never admitted that he had an affair. To began healing from adultery the person who created the offense has to ask for forgiveness and sincerely mean it to start the healing process. If they think that they have done nothing wrong, the affair will repeat over and over again without remorse. Addictions will blind a person from determining right from wrong choices. Addictions numb the pain of the consequences of their choices and reality of the truth. You cannot seek regular steps to heal someone who has an addiction.
You cannot seek help from people who do not have experience with addiction."
It’s very hard to put this book down. It’s an honest, vulnerable and powerful account of one woman’s journey of love, a relationship gone wrong and self-discovery.
Each page showed a new pain, a new adversity and a new challenge to the book’s main character and how she persevered during the most daunting circumstances of betrayal, miscarriages, fights, addictions and more. At the brink of her most heightened pain and when contemplating suicide, Ariella takes action to get her life back on track. The later parts of the book shows the lessons she learned, insights she gleamed and actions she took to start over in her life.
The conversational and down-to-earth nature of this book made it an easy and interesting read but you’ll share the pain and grief of the main character throughout. The book will suck you in quickly and take you on the painful journey of the main character. You’ll be rooting for her to take her life back into her own hands, learn the lessons which were in store for her and escape from the nightmarish relationship and marriage. As difficult as the circumstances in this book were, it left me with a feeling of hope, peace and belief in a new day.
What a fantastic read! This book was written in a way, I believe, that many people can relate their own past relationships and experiences. It was a good length and I finished reading in one sitting. The story told is powerful and makes you look at what you can do better in the future, to have healthier relationships. The book also gives you the tools to achieve them. Finding happiness is the goal and this has definitely been an inspirational piece. Well written!
This book was exactly what I needed...a quick read, and a very inspirational, and wonderful reminder that there is life after divorce. I have already recommended it to several friends who I know will benefit, so glad I came across this book!
